Tuesday, July 10, 2012
my inner neat freak
I used to be a bit of a neat freak. I even managed to keep that habit up (mostly) with baby number one. By baby number two that standard of neatness became quite a bit more relaxed. And with the third it has kind of gone out the window. School holidays especially. Where I really find I just have to take a deep breath (or a few) and go with it. Let them scatter cards, books, lego and pencils. I tell myself that the mess is only temporary. That one day I will miss it. The mess, the noise and the constant questions.
Ignoring mess feels like it goes against my nature. I find myself feeling irritated and unable to relax amongst mess. Give me calm and order any day of the week. But I've had to learn to ignore the mess for my own and my kid's sanity. So I've been making a conscious effort to do just that. To let it go during the day with a combined tidy up in the evening. By not constantly tidying I'm more able to observe those little moments. When all three are happily busy with their activities. When I notice the co-operation, the sharing, the kindness amongst them even, and not just the fighting. Moments I would have been too busy to notice. It's those moments I realize how much I really do love being a parent. I forget that sometimes amongst all the disorder that is life.
How about you? Do you find yourself fighting your inner neat freak? Or are you naturally more relaxed about mess? How do you cope?